Ask Dr. Gys - Q & A
We have been married for 17 years and we love and trust each other. But I have become bored, particularly with the sexual aspect of the relationship. I do not want to leave, but it cannot go on like this.
We are both 25 years old and have been dating for 15 months. He is getting serious about an engagement and marriage. On the one hand I yearn for it, but on the other hand I wonder whether we really belong together. How do I know that our relationship will make old bones?
My friend got divorced because of an affair with a married man. She has often attempted to break it off, but then she always falls back on the excuse of them being “soul mates”. Her lifestyle goes against everything my Christian morals have taught me. Over the past two years, we have often been at odds due to our different perspectives on life and love. How can I remain true to my own values and loyal to our friendship?
I am 47 years old and have been divorced for over three years. My three high school children live with me, and I enjoy them immensely. What irritates me is that my friends keep wondering why I haven’t embarked on a serious relationship with a man yet. Some are quite blatant, while others keep subtly mum. Someone might mention how someone as attractive as me should be living life and going out – with a man, of course! Is it abnormal not to have a burning desire for the next serious relationship?
We have been married for fourteen years and have two beautiful children. My Valentine’s Day gift was a shocking discovery on my husband’s cell phone: love messages to and from another woman in a language of love that I have never even heard from him. We went to a counselor where my husband confessed his betrayal and asked for forgiveness. I have no one to talk to, and when I want to discuss it with my husband, he thinks that I am blaming him. My life is falling apart. How do I trust him again and how do I deal with this pain?